Those people who don’t know me that well, don’t realize that I have a constant need to continue to prove myself.
Some would believe this is a good trait to have, but it has made some of my adult life difficult for me and my family.
I have made a lot of bad decisions, acting on impulse to prove to myself that I can always accomplish more. No matter how successful I get, I am never happy with my accomplishments and always worried that people will find out that I am a fraud.
I grew up without any self-confidence and feelings of inadequacy. Neither of my parents went to college and my dad drove a truck for 30 years and hated every moment of it.
I didn’t know what to do but I did know that I didn’t want to have a job that I hated my whole life as my dad did.
Early Work History
When I graduated from high school, I didn’t have any direction, nor did I know what I wanted to do with my life. My parents gave me two choices, go to college or find a job. At that time, I didn’t see the value of a college education and I never had any money of my own, so I decided to get a job.
I worked meaningless jobs for a couple of years before I was introduced to a job as a bank teller by one of my friends. A bank teller is not a career for most people as it tends to pay minimum wage and most of us were part-time with a few short, three-hour shifts per week. That being said, never in my life did I ever think I would be working in a bank or wearing slacks and a tie every day to work.
My expectations for myself at that time were that I would probably take a job stocking shelves overnight at a grocery store and eventually retire with a nice pension. At the bank, I learned to be a professional and for the first time in my life, I started to notice there were things that I was good at. I liked talking to the public, I had a good work ethic, I was determined, and I had this constant desire to continue to better myself and my situation.
I was not satisfied with staying in one position for a long time and was always looking to get promoted. As I started to move up in the ranks of the bank and my income increased, I no longer felt like I didn’t belong and started to feel like a real asset to the company. I felt like I could accomplish anything which I had never felt before, but there was always this need to do more.
I ended up working in banking for over 20 years and held positions in Private Banking and Management. Then I became interested in investment products and helping people make the most of their savings and retirement strategies.
I took and passed the Series 7 exam and obtained my securities license. The pass rate on that 6-hour test is less than 50% so I felt great about passing on the first try. I would go on to be an investment advisor for a few years until it was obvious that financial institutions were no longer interested in what was good for the customer, they only wanted us to push products on our clients that generated high commissions for the company.
I couldn’t be a part of that, so I decided to find a new career. I didn’t want to do sales anymore and wanted to prove myself in another line of work.
Unfortunately, my decision not to go to college would come back to haunt me at this point. I didn’t have a college degree, and the only jobs that I held since high school were in financial institutions. I was stuck! Most companies were requiring a college degree even to be considered despite one’s level of experience.
That’s when I decided at age 35 to get my degree online while I worked full time and supported my new family. It was a very difficult time for me, but I was determined to finish and eventually got my Bachelor of Science in Psychology.
I thought I wanted to be a psychologist so I could help people who were having difficulties with their mental health but then I realized that if I wanted to support a family working in mental health it would require at least a master’s degree and many years of low paying jobs to build my experience.
Being a father with responsibilities and a mortgage to pay, that was not an option for me. My father-in-law owned a State Farm agency and before I left my job in finance, he helped me get my Property and Casualty Broker-Agent License. This insurance license would allow me to work anywhere in the insurance industry that I wanted.
Without knowing anything about it, I applied at Liberty Mutual as a workers’ compensation claims adjuster. I worked hard to convince them that my background working in banking prepared me for what it took to be a good claims adjuster. For those of you who don’t know, workers’ compensation claims adjusting is hard.
The laws are complex and it’s one of those careers where you learn something new every day. I worked my way up from claims adjuster to the senior claims adjuster and eventually to claims supervisor. I was happier than I had ever been, I was good at my job, and I was making more money than I ever had before.
I got to work at home, and I never missed any of my kid’s sporting events or school functions. What hadn’t changed was that constant desire to do something new and prove myself all over again. That is when I decided that I wanted to pursue a career in the wine industry.
Pursuing My Passion at 42
For some reason, I thought leaving my insurance job at the age of 42 and starting a career as a winemaker made sense.
Without thinking about how I was going to do this, I bought all kinds of books about wine and winemaking which inspired me to enroll in the UC Davis Winemaking Certificate Program.
I knew I still loved wine and winemaking so I was determined to find something that I could do with my passion and make a career in the wine business.
That’s when I came up with the idea of starting a wine podcast.
With the podcast, I could leverage my contacts in the wine industry, my education, and my passion for wine. It could be done on my own time and would allow me to stay connected to wine. It took me over a year to figure out what I wanted to do and how to do it.
Since I am never content with what I am doing and always looking for a new challenge, I have decided to start this blogging business called wesleycable.com. I wanted to figure out a good theme for my blog that matched my enthusiasm for helping others and having fun. Doing my podcast has opened my eyes to a lot of things that can be done online so I decided to create a brand of me.
This blogging business will give me another creative outlet to share my experience and knowledge with more people. The blog will give me the freedom to talk about things that I know well. I look forward to sharing this journey with people from all over the world and like everything else I have done in my life, I am determined to make it a success. Cheers!